10 Principles for Peace of Mind

1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked:
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget:
This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yourse lf in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.

4. Do Not Be Jealous:
We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Med itate Regularly:
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:
An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:
Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was desti ned to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?

THE MAKKAH - KHANA KABAH

MAKKAH [KHANA KABAH] Is The Most Beautiful Place In The World.

81 Ways To Win Your Wife's Love

1. Make her feel secure, don’t threaten her with divorce.

2. Give sincere Salaams.

3. Treat her gently, like a fragile vessel.

4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.

5. Be generous with her.

6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart.

7. Avoid anger, be in Wudhu at all times.

8. Look good and smell great for your wife.

9. Don’t be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken.

10. Be a good listener.

11. Yes for flattery. No for arguing.

12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, and names she loves to hear.

13. A pleasant surprise.

14. Preserve and guard the tongue.

15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings.

16. Give sincere compliments.

17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family.

18. Speak of the topic of her interest.

19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is.

20. Give each other gifts.

21. Get rid of routine, surprise her.

22. Have a good opinion of each other.

23. Have good manners, overlook small things, don’t nitpick.

24. Add a drop of patience, increase during pregnancy, menses.

25. Expect and respect her jealously.

26. Be humble.

27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers.

28. Help at home, with housework.

29. Help her love your relatives, but don’t try to force her.

30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you.

31. Remember your wife in Du’a.

32. Leave the past for Allah, don’t dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.

33. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.

34. Take Shaitan as your enemy, not your wife.

35. Put food in your wife’s mouth.

36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect.

37. Show her your smile.

38. Don’t ignore the small things, deal with them before they be come big.

39. Avoid being harsh-hearted.

40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking.

41. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills.

42. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within Halaal boundaries.

43. Help her take care of the children.

44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments.

45. Sit down and eat meals together.

46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice.

47. Don’t leave home in anger.

48. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home.

49. Encourage each other in worship.

50. Respect and fulfill her rights upon you.

51. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times.

52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, don’t jump on her like a bull.

53. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside.

54. Show care for her health and well-being.

55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself.

56. Share your happiness and sadness with her.

57. Have mercy for her weaknesses.

58. Be a firm support for her to lean on.

59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal.

60. Have a good intention for her.

61. Cook a dish for her.

62. Designate a nice, clean, spacious area in your home for the two of you to pray at night whenever you can.

63. Women love flowers. Make a trail of them on the floor leading to the gift you made for her.

64. Give her a nice massage when she least expects it.

65. Send your wife a text message out of the blue with a message of love.

66. Send your wife an email without a reason.

67. Go out on a date or a get-away for the weekend in a nice location, preferably without kids.

68. Do something for your wife’s family, whether it is a gift, or a chat with her teen brother who needs mentoring, or whatever. It will get you lots of brownie points.

69. Do not keep reminding and demanding your rights all the time.

70. Shop groceries for her and call her from the store and ask her what she needs for the home, for herself or for her to give to people as gifts.

71. Ask her if she would like to invite her female friends over for ladies only get together and arrange for the dinner.

72. Ask her to send gifts to her parents and siblings.

73. Help her parents pay off debt. Send her poor relatives some money.

74. Write love notes or poems and place them in the book she’s been reading.

75. If she tells you something she had just learned from the Qur’an or Hadith, do not dismiss her or ridicule her effort, instead listen to her and take her word.

76. Plant her a kitchen garden with all kind of herbs she needs for cooking.

77. Adopt a kitten for her if she likes.

78. Update her PC or laptop with a new one or get her a new mobile phone.

79. Learn to do a special massage technique and surprise her with your new expertise.

80. Teach your children to respect and honor their mother.

81. Be humorous with her when she makes a mistake in the kitchen (like when she put too much salt or burnt her baking).

WOMAN IN PHOTOART

Superb PhotoArts of Woman by Katie Lee

The Fact of Life

Anything Worth Doing Is Worth Doing Poorly...
Many of us miss some of life's best things while saying, "I don't know how to do that. If I were to try, I'd only make a fool of myself."

A fellow I know well tried to water ski - once. He tried to get up on the skis three or four times that day. Every time he tried, he wound up tumbling into the water. The three guys on the lake with him all coached. They also laughed at his frustration. "One last time!" he yelled. Then, when he was yanked into the lake again, he swam over to the boat. He was edgy for the remainder of the day. And he has never tried to water ski again in the 40 or more years since.
Perfectionists settle for nothing short of a first-rate performance from themselves. When they come across something that has to be learned through trial and error, they become intolerant of their limitations. They pile up points in the things they can do with ease and skill, while ignoring - and maybe even putting down - the things they do poorly.

People with this bent of personality can get depressed, for nobody is capable of premier performance in everything. They get so tense they sometimes botch even the things they are good at doing. They can't relax. They remove risks from life by narrowing their interests. They get in safe, comfortable, and boring ruts.

It's liberating for some people to find out they can make mistakes and still survive! If your new dessert flops, the world won't end. If you make a mistake at work, you won't die. If you can't master calculus or statistics, you can still be a good person. If someone hears you sing off-key, you won't become an outcast.

Thank God for mistakes. They let you learn. They mean you are still pushing out your horizons. They give you a chance to grow. They let the rest of us know you are still one of us.

If you were perfect, your life would be terribly dull. Nothing to learn. No more challenges. No relationships with peers. The rest of us would probably be too intimidated to talk to you, play tennis with you, or work alongside you. And you certainly wouldn't need for anyone of our inferior status to care about you.

So don't be paralyzed by your fears. Whatever it is that you want to do and do well likely will be learned through a process that involves some miscues and false starts. But, if it's worth doing at all, it's worth doing poorly at first.

Give it a shot. Take piano lessons. Write a short story. Learn to use a computer. Paint your bedroom. Water ski. Care about someone. At the cross, God showed us how creative he can be with what looked to all the world to be failure. Why not give him a chance with you?

Inspirational Quotation Wallpapers

"LIFE is ten percent what happens to you and 90 percent how you respond to it."

"A minute's success pays the failure of years."

"The impossible can always be broken down into possiblities."
"Success is the good fortune that comes from aspiration, desperation persperation & inspiration."

"Life is like a staircase. You have to go up each stair to reach the top."

"Health is the thing that makes you feel that now is the best time of the year."

"When you are not practicing, remember... someone somewhere is practicing... and when you meet him he will win."

"Whatever the mind can conceive and believe the mind can achieve."

Beauty of Women

Faces I Cant Forget!!
The loveliest faces are to be seen by moonlight, when one sees half with the eye and half with the fancy.

Struggle Stories Of Bollywood Actors

>>•• Shah Rukh Khan •• «
The quintessential struggler story, Shah Rukh's is the one that gives credence to the millions of starry-eyed dreamers who come to Mumbai in search of finding everything. Khan once legendarily looked out at Mumbai's sea-facing Bandstand area and announced that he would rule the city.

This was even before he camped in the houses of directors Aziz Mirza and Viveck Vaswani, as the television actor from Fauji and Circus slogged to get a foot into a cruel, insider-only industry. Yet Khan wasn't ready to accept bit roles, and refused to play Anil Kapoor's driver in 1942: A Love Story, even though he and wife Gauri were barely able to scrape together rent. Khan stuck to his guns. Today, his Bandstand bungalow is a tourist shrine and he's a far way from staying at friends' houses to put himself through.

» •• Rakhi Sawant •• «
Born to an ACP father who despised Bollywood, Sawant had a tough time for the very start. It took the strong-willed actress awhile to get herself into an item-girl slot, following which her father left the house in protest, and she now lives with her mother.

The real struggle lay in Sawant setting out to purchase the finest body money could buy, and amazingly being able to borrow funds to finance her plastic surgeries. Today, she's an icon in her own right.

» •• Mithun Chakravorty •• «

The basic struggle behind the iconic 80s star ensued from the fact that he was a staunch Naxalite in Bengal, and when he wanted to leave the Naxal movement after his brother was killed in an accident, the group made it harder for him because one was not allowed to just walk away from the Naxalite cause.

Yet Chakravorty soldiered on, and graduated from the Film and Television Institute of India in Pune. He is one of the only actors to win a National Award for his debut film, Mrinal Sen's Mrigaya.

» •• Manoj Bajpai •• «
In a way, his struggle still continues. Hailing from Champaran in Bihar, Bajpai made it onto the the theatre circuit in Delhi, following which he struggled in various television serials as he searched for a big movie break.

Despite appearances in important films like Droh Kaal and Bandit Queen, his breakthrough role was in Ram Gopal Varma's Satya, where he played mobster Bhiku Mhatre. He's still around, and yet prominent roles continue to avoid him.

» •• Mallika Sherawat•• «
Born Reema Lamba, the Haryanvi stunner picked her new name so as not to be lost in a generic sea of Reemas. Mallika means Empress, and Sherawat is her mother's maiden name.

Hailing from Haryana, Mallika didn't have it easy with her parents opposed to her acting career, and there have been unconfirmed murmurings about a marriage she allegedly walked out of. Entering Bollywood too wasn't easy, the actress first appearing in a music video for Bhangra singer Surjit Bindrakhia. Then, after a cameo in Jeena Sirf Mere Liye, Sherawat popped up in Khwahish, after which she shook the industry with her aggressive sexuality and unbridled tongue. Once Mallika entered Bollywood, she made sure nobody could ignore her, smalltown girl or not.

» ••Jackie Shroff •• «
A Mumbai youth, Jaikishen Shroff didn't have it easy, and going by most reports, the boy took to the wrong side of the tracks and entered the acquaintance of local ruffians. For a while, Jaikishen became Jaggu in South Bombay's Teen Patti, a small-time dada.

Still, there must have been something inherently magnetic about him, because despite his disastrous movie debut - he played a side-villain in Dev Anand's Swami Dada, his second film, Subhash Ghai's Hero, was a smash hit and made him a star overnight.

Then came a string of films pairing him with rising superstar Anil Kapoor, and the Shroff-Kapoor duo was phenomenally successful through the 1980s. Shroff kept at it since, and continues to surprise with the occasionally powerful performance.

» •• Govinda •• «
Govinda's story would have been much smoother. His mother Nirmala Devi was a famed classical vocalist from Banaras, while father Arun Kumar Ahuja was an actor in the 1940s. All was well until the one film Ahuja produced turned out to be a flop, and Arun's health deteriorated.

The family moved from Bombay's swank Carter Road area to the far-flung Virar suburb. Govinda graduated studying Commerce, but wasn't able to get a job. Around this time, Govinda watched Saturday Night Fever and worked hard to make a VHS tape promo of himself. Soon a couple of TV ads came, after which the film floodgates opened.

» •• Farah Khan •• «
Khan's mother Menaka was sister to Honey and Daisy Irani, but her father Kamran Khan passed away while Farah was still young. She soon became the breadwinner of the family, raising her brother Sajid who went on to become a television host (and more recently, director) while she became a top-rung choreographer.

Farah waited for three years to get SRK's okay on her first film, Main Hoon Na, which turned out to be a massive success -- eclipsed soon by her superhit second film, Om Shanti Om.

» •• Akshay Kumar •• «
Rajiv Hari Om Bhatia did it the hard way. A boy from Amritsar, he was raised first in Chandni Chowk before living in Mumbai's Koliwada area. He was always good in sports, and the boy went to Bangkok to study martial arts. This was a time when he worked as a chef abroad.

He started teaching martial arts in Mumbai on his return, and one of his students was a photographer who suggested Akshay look at modelling as a career option. He realised that modelling was a much more financially viable option, and films were a natural progression from that. His second film, Khiladi, was a smash hit, and the rest is ongoing history.

Google's Work Environment

We already knew that working for Google had certain advantages, but, believe me, this giant of the search motor takes the welfare of its employees seriously .. as shown by this decompression (stress) capsule that is impermeable to sound and light.

Moving Around: A slide allows quick access from different floors, there are also poles available.
They are similar to the ones used in fire stations.

Food: Employees can eat all they want from a vast choice of food and drink.

Station: Each employee has at least two large screens. There are 4-6 'Zooglers' per office.

INOVATION: Large boards are available just about everywhere because "ideas don't always come when seated in the office" says one of Googles managers.

LEISURE: Pool tables, video games etc. are available in many areas.

Communication: On each floor, there are private cabin areas where employees can attend to personal affairs.

Technical Support: Problem with your computer? No problem, Bring it to this area where drinks are available while it is being fixed.

Health: Professional masseurs (eusses) available.

REST: This room provides massage chairs that you control, While you view relaxing aquariums!

Ambiance: There are many books in this library. Even some about programming!